The Darling Nomadess: Post-Grad Life: On Transitions

Friday, June 13, 2014

Post-Grad Life: On Transitions

Graduation was about a month ago and I have to be completely honest, this transition period is completely out of my element. 

Since I wasn't one of the lucky few to land a job before or right after graduation, I've been doing some after-school babysitting. It's not much but it's something. One of the kids just had his last day of 5th grade, meaning that he "graduates" from intermediate school and will be moving up to middle school in the fall. This school district has multiple middle schools and high schools in the area. Once the students complete intermediate school they go to a middle school closer to their home.

This newly graduated fifth-grader was visibly melancholy upon his arrival home. Knowing it was his last day of school, and seeing the delight and relief of his siblings, I asked him why he wasn't excited that his summer had finally kicked off. In response, he said "I'm moving to a different middle school than my friends next year. I might never see them again. What if I don't make new friends? It's just a weird transition."

Kid, I know exactly how you feel. 

The past month has definitely been a weird transition. I've always been the independent type so the post-grad life is exciting to me, but the idea of making new friends and figuring out what to do with my life come fall is a bit vexing at the moment…especially as many of my friends getting their lives together.

Christian's going to law school…Rachael is going to China…Meg is going to France…Joni got her dream job…and I'm just stuck. Now don't me wrong, I am ecstatic for my friends and their wonderful achievements. I'm so excited to see their dreams come true and to be able to celebrate with them.

I just never imagined the job hunt being such a struggle, or not knowing what I want to do with my life. I would like to consider myself a "Jane of all trades." I'm talented in many areas but not the best at any single anything. I love the thought of working in PR…or marketing…or event planning…or journalism…or fashion…or…or...

Life is full of uncertainty, and change. It seems to me that this uncertainty is waiting around every corner in throughout our lives. From the uncertainty of finding friends after the fifth grade, to the uncertainty of finding a way to prosper in the world after college we are all faced with amazing challenges. I can only hope that whatever challenge I may face, it will prepare me for more to come.

There are so many directions in which life may take me in the fall. It's a bit terrifying. I have no idea what the future holds for me, but what I do know is that I will not settle for mediocrity.

What challenges are you facing?

With Love,

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  1. Girl, the post-grad job hunt was the absolute worst. It's hard having 4 blissful years in college and to just suddenly be dumped in the real world. Nothing can really prepare you for life after college. It's a defining time in your life. Be patient with the job hunt. I know it's super agonizing, but you can get through this! I would just intern and volunteer as much as possible to keep gaining more experience in your industry. Also, blogging definitely helps you stay motivated!

    Best of luck pretty lady!

  2. I totally understand this feeling of uncertainty and transitioning. Even though I graduate next May, I feel like I'm in a weird transition too since I don't really have a job this summer and I'm have no clue what I want to do next year. But I wanted to encourage you during this time that transitions can be positive even through hard moments. I've been feeling at peace with the unknown lately and it's been such an awesome perspective change. I'm wishing you all the luck, motivation, and perseverance for your job hunt and I hope one comes along that blows you away! xo, gina

  3. I'm definitely in the same position. I feel most of my friends are moving on to bigger projects and I'm in limbo at home trying to figure it all out. I have had such a hard time dealing with it as well, it brought me to question so many things. I'm trying to stay positive and look forward to the many many things I know I'll accomplish in the future :)

    1. I feel ya, Camila! My friends are doing so many exciting things and I genuinely am excited for them! I just wish I knew what I was doing with my life, too!

  4. I agree. I'm 25 and I feel the same exact way! I don't know what to do with my life and I feel STUCK! It's such a sad place to be at but I know I have to be patient and everything will come together.

  5. I had a hard time transitioning after college too. Even when you do get a job, its still really, really different. Especially when your friends don't get jobs and cannot relate at all. I joined some meetup groups and got involved in the tech community where I met people who I had more in common with, which helped a lot!

  6. I completely understand how you feel! I graduated in December and still feel like I'm in that weird transition.

  7. I know exactly how you feel... but you are NOT alone. Seriously, nobody know what they're doing. Secret: I don't either. I love you sister. AOE.

  8. This completely encapsulates how I feel right now. I graduated last month as well, and I'm just honestly not where I thought I'd be. I just got a part-time job in a law firm, and I absolutely love it! But it's part time, and I'm still waitressing as well. I feel like I should be getting a full-time job somewhere, figuring my life out, and I just have absolutely no idea where I'm going to be a year from now. It's such a crazy time, and having friends moving off to all different parts of the country makes it that much harder.

  9. I was in your shoes two years ago. I'd like to tell you it gets better, but I still don't know what I want to do! I guess at least finding the wrong job and knowing what you don't want to do is half the battle.

  10. Well put! I found myself in this exact place after college and even though I have a job in marketing now, those same feelings are creeping up again. I still don't know what I want to do with my life and I'm about to turn 27! You will get there and so will I. Life leads us down some crazy paths.

    Thanks so much for sharing your story!

    26 and Not Counting

  11. Ashliegh, I was recently in the same boat!! I was on the 5 year college plan, switched majors a few times, and just graduated last month. The entire time I was in college though I was thinking "I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE!!" lol. Almost all of my friends are going to be nurses or teachers. I thought that was ironic and unfair that their career paths were so set in stone. I was always thinking "Why am I the weird one?" of "What is wrong with me?!" I finally discovered my true passion and decided what I what I want to do with the rest of my life just a few months ago! Don't worry. You will get there. It may take some more time or a big leap of faith, but in the end I betcha you'll be the one who is most happy with your job because you took the time to think about it very carefully :)


  12. Post grad is one of the hardest times of life because of the unknown. Just know that it will all work out in the end, so just keep working towards what you want and you'll get there!

  13. Don't forget to put your blog on your resume! I hadn't thought to add it as "work experience" myself until I attended Go Blog Social. It may be a skill (and let's face it, it IS a skillset) that a company is looking for, and it could help you land a job! :) Best of luck to you!

  14. Ohhh my god girl, I am the exact same way!!! I am not insanely talented at one particular thing, but I"m pretty great at a few things. And I also have a lot of different interests. I'm going through a new transition now myself and all these feelings from post-grad are resurfacing. It's crazy. Good luck and enjoy your time while you can!!

  15. This past semester was the hardest one of my life. All of my friends had jobs lined up or were accepted into graduate programs, and then my roommate got engaged on top of that. It felt like all I was doing was being happy for others when I couldn't even be happy for myself. Things have since come out of the woodwork, but I know my very best friend is still in "WTF" mode. She just graduated, too, and doesn't even know what she wants to do! She's frantically applying for any and every job, but she isn't having much luck. Keep your head high, Ashliegh. You'll get something great!
    xoxo Chloe | Wanderlust in the Midwest

  16. I graduated a year ago and still feel like this. Nobody prepares you for how strange life is post college. My best advice is take life a day at a time or else you'll go insane trying to figure it all out.


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